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Quick Tips: If You’re Thinking about Leaving a Church . . .

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by Jason Smathers on September 8, 2010

In What is a Healthy Church?, Mark Dever write the following tips for those thinking about leaving a church.

Before You Decide to Leave
  1. Pray.
  2. Let your current pastor know about your thinking before you move to another church or make your decision to relocate to another city. Ask for his counsel.
  3. Weigh your motives. Is your desire to leave because of sinful, personal conflict or disappointment? If it’s because of doctrinal reasons, are these doctrinal issues significant?
  4. Do everything within your power to reconcile any broken relationships.
  5. Be sure to consider all the “evidences of grace” you’ve seen in the church’s life—places where God’s work is evident. If you cannot see any evidences of God’s grace, you might want to examine your own heart once more (Matt. 7:3–5).
  6. Be humble. Recognize you don’t have all the facts and assess people and circumstances charitably (give them the benefit of the doubt).
If You Go
  1. Don’t divide the body.
  2. Take the utmost care not to sow discontent even among your closest friends. Remember, you don’t want anything to hinder their growth in grace in this church. Deny any desire to gossip (sometimes referred to as “venting” or “saying how you feel”).
  3. Pray for and bless the congregation and its leadership. Look for ways of doing this practically.
  4. If there has been hurt, then forgive—even as you have been forgiven.
Today, Tim Challies posted an article titled When Should I Leave My Church? Tim provides a list of when you must leave and when you might leave. It seems Tim has thought of circumstances which Dever wasn’t considering. For example, if your church is teaching outright heresy, you just might want to divide the body by taking others with you to a Biblical church.
Tim Challies lists the following reasons why you must leave a church.
  1. If the teaching is heretical (Galatians 1:7-9).
  2. If the leaders tolerate error from those who teach (Romans 16:17).
  3. If there is utter disregard for biblical church discipline (1 Corinthians 5 and 2 Thessalonians 3:6,14).
  4. If the church is marked by utter hypocrisy (2 Timothy 3:5).
And he lists the following reasons why you may leave a church:
  1. If you desire better teaching.
  2. If you desire to use your gifts.
  3. If you desire a more convenient location.
  4. If it better serves your family.
Be sure to read all of what Tim had to say, as he explains each point in his article.
I’d like to submit the following as reasons you should not leave your church:
  1. You do not like the pastor.
  2. You had a fight with a brother or sister or other conflict.
  3. You did something embarrassing and are afraid of being judged.
  4. To avoid church discipline or otherwise escape or hide from the authority of your church.

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